I want to enjoy life from now on, hopefully not in a reckless and careless way. Do want to learn to discipline meself in order to improve my numerous crafts/interests. I tend to judge me/myself&I too much based on achievements. While there is nothing wrong with our need to achieve, the problem lies with under/over-achievement. Both states provoke sho much anxiety, which paralyses and stifles. But there must be a way to find fun amidst all that progress and self-improvement jazz. I feel I kinda know the answer to the previous question, but it escapes me. It's often easier said than done to find absolute pleasure in every task. An interesting idea presented in the book series "Divergent" is the question whether we can truly conquer our fear. Fear does not just go away I think. You can't stop fearing. They are not rational, thus rationalizing fear might not help. Also have heard from others that fear is a choice. Can one choose not to fear but to be brave? We might as well buy bravery if it was that easy. I think fear is as real as thirst. Since thirst is real, fear must be real too. Butt, the object of fear might not be real or physically real. Sermon of the day: emotions are real. Have you heard anyone proclaiming that happiness is not real? Or how we should rationalize happiness? Perhaps we should stop choosing happiness too. Thus, why do we treat fear differently? Choosing not to fear for me seems to be just another act of rationalization.

Q: do you rationalize your emotions with IQ or EQ?

If you don't know what EQ is, then too bad b/c I honestly don't know much about this arbitrary term either.

Thought for food: how can you choose not to feel unless through repression or denial? Okay you own me food now.
Analogy for food: it is like me trying to deny the fact that I am Chinese, which I do a lot. That doesn't mean you should do it too b/c it's triple bad to deny your cultural origins. Hypocrisy of the day. Preaching to myself really. Say no to defense mechanisms.
I think the best way to deal with any emotions is first be okay with ourselves feeling whatever we feel. This will help us not to go directly to avoidance or denial modes. Being aware of and acknowledge our emotions would actually be a big step for most of us. Some common thought patterns:

"That person is so freaking annoying, but it's okay, I am not bothered by it. I am just going to pretend that they don't exist." -DENIAL-

OR

"F-bomb this person, F-bomb that person, F-bomb my life, but that is okay. I am not angry. I am peaceful. I choose peace." -DENIAL-

First, peace is not a PKMN, yet.
Second, you don't have to force zen in turmoil because maybe your anger is trying to communicate something to you. -ACKNOWLEDGED-

It almost seems to me that we think of peace as a superior emotional state than anger. Don't be a mood-ist. No emotional discrimination prease. Actually, you should learn to discriminate between emotions but not against emotions, big new-new. It is totally okay to be angry, hurt, annoyed, offended, disappointed, flustered, embarrassed, depressed, anxious, unsatisfied, worried, uncertain, and the list will go on and on, like my heart, Celine's heart to be more precise, Rose's heart to be even more precise.

Sidenote: it is not okay to lash out on peeps.
Sidenote 2: it is okay to express our feelings to another, but more on that lata. 

Our quick stance to search for peace usually demonstrates a deeper emotional immaturity, our inability to handle negative emotions because they are not pleasant. Fair enough but it just shows that we can't take in any pain. No pain then no bread for French people. If we can't even be okay with our own pain, how can we be okay with others'? That is why we often tell others the same damned thing we tell ourselves. "Don't worry, be happy". Instead of dealing with our emotions, we opt to numb ourselves by resorting to distracting activities. Our bottom line: it is not okay to feel anything negative, we can only be happy. Here is a song that proves my point: